Relationship psychologist Barbara De Angelis reminds us, “Marriage is not a noun; it’s a verb. It isn’t something you get. It is something you do”. Part of “doing marriage” entails keeping our relationships in good health. A good marriage is not created by luck, it is created by effort. Perhaps your marriage may benefit from a health check, and some investment to make it become strong again. In this article I address when you should consider the help of an external expert, a couples’ counsellor, to help heal your relationship.